Sande, partner to Bob for 56 years, mother to Greer, mother in-law to Brian Pasquill, and grandmother to Aedan & Zachary left this world with her family at her side the afternoon of December 26th, 2022.
A very serious and largely untreatable cancer of the gall bladder had spread to her liver and lymph nodes, only having received confirmation of the diagnosis a couple of weeks prior to her passing. Sadly, the pain and complication of the condition overcame her very rapidly, a terrible shock to family, friends and caregivers. Sande had been transferred from home to a hospice bed at Ayre Manor in Sooke the afternoon of December 24th with the support and guidance of her physician Dr. Tomas Vally and Sooke Hospice – the family is enormously grateful to Dr. Vally, Sooke Hospice, and the staff of Ayre Manor for their compassionate care and support during a most challenging time.
Sande was a beautiful soul, born in Montreal, and having grown up in the Eastern Townships of Quebec with her mother, Lilah M. Fruiler (father, Louis Douglas Fruitier, died circa 1947), cousins, and a treasured group of friends; this is also where she met her love, Bob, whom she married in Montreal November 12, 1966. Sande’s expression of her beautiful nature was expressed perfectly in her appreciation of art of all kinds, as well as the maintenance of a very special aesthetic in her home and tastes. She was a most amazing and lovely friend to many, always giving beyond 100% to help those she cared for. A live wire, always au courant with local and global affairs and politics, she was an avid reader and a social media savante.
Sande gave very generously of her time and attention to local arts organizations (Sooke Fine Arts, Greater Victoria Art Gallery, Victoria Horticultural Society) – her contributions are gratefully acknowledged, and her presence will be sadly missed by her family and friends.
The family graciously requests donations to Ayre Manor (Sooke Elderly Citizen’s Housing Society) or Sooke Hospice in lieu of flowers.
Condolences may be offered to the family below.
To Bob, Greer and family,
Our heartfelt sympathy at the loss of Sande.
A lovely lady with a contagious smile.
You will have wonderful memories to share with the grandchildren.
Marnee and Graeme Lee
After all the condolences and offers of a meal, when my wife died in September, Sandie and Bob where the only ones who followed thru and we had a delicious dinner together. That is the measure of Sandie and Bob, always caring. She’s dancing beyond the stars, a million miles passed the moon. It’s a hard hit, but I know you can make it through Bob.
So very sorry to read of Sande’s passing.
She was always generous and friendly to all.
Sincere condolences to Bob and Greer
John Topolniski & Linda Ferguson
Our heartfelt condolences go out to you Bob. Although we haven’t seen each other for a couple of years, when we moved to Sooke and joined the Sooke Fine Arts Society, you and Sande greeted us with open arms. Your friendship and hospitality will be cherished forever.
The best sister in law I could have ever had. I will miss our conversations and laughs. Bob, Greer, Brian, Zach, Aedan words can’t express how sorry I am that Sande was taken so quickly from us but she watches over us still keeping us in line. RIP Sande, until we meet again ❤️❤️
Sending deepest sympathy to you, Bob, and to your family for your sad loss of Sande. She was
a strong person who was also a very kind lady, and I remember her with respect and affection.
Our deepest Condolences to Bob, Greer, and Family from all her Ruiter Cousins and offspring!
Sande will be fondly remembered by all us, now spread out over Canada from Nova Scotia to Alberta !
She was a huge part of the glue, that kept us in touch with each other in the Family !
Sande will be sadly missed !
Sande, you lit up every room. Your kindness, caring nature, and joy of life was a pleasure to be around. Always the best hostess, bringing meaningful, genuine conversations. Putting anyone in your presence at ease. You are one of my Mother’s oldest, dearest friends. ❤️ many fond memories of laughter over the years, even from across the Country still remaining friends. I thank you for being a great role model when I was a young girl and for being Nancy’s dear friend. Sending love and comfort to Bob, Greer and family. She loved you all so much! It’s hard to imagine life without her for you all, I know how much she meant to you. Such a fine lady, feeling honored to have known her.
Take care of one another,
Marjory-Anne Both (Dave and Nancy Haas) xo
Brian and Margaret Hewitt
So sorry to hear about Sande our thoughts are with you and the family. Margaret&Brian
Having known Sande & Bob for over 60 years, our condolences go out to Bob, Greer and family, From Jim & Donna Porter
Wayne B, Kemp
Dear Bob,Greer and family
Julie and I were deeply saddened to hear of Sande’s sudden passing.
I will miss our so often conversations and sharing of pictures of our youth at Selby Lake and the mutual friends from Cowansville that we both knew.
I am so sorry to read of Sande’s passing. My condolences to all the family. I met Sande many years ago when we were both at the AGGV. She was always so much fun and had such a great “let’s get it done” attitude. I will remember Sande with great affection.
This is not goodbye my friend….it is until we meet again.
Rest in Peace.
Alex and Yolande
This is very sad and unexpected news. Sande and Bob have been our good friends since childhood. Sande will be missed!
Ce n’est qu’un Aurevoir Sande. Merçi ,
Denise and Don Bastian
Our hearts are devastated for you and your family.
We thought the world of Sande, her sense of humor, artistic flair and generous heart, we will miss her very much.
If there is anything we can do for you, or if you need a get away, please call on us.
Denise and Don Bastian
Dear family of Sande,
It is with a very heavy heart that I wish to convey my deepest sympathy to you. I can’t believe Sande is gone. Even though Myles and I had moved away from the island 5 years ago, she was one of the people who kept in contact with me during the time we were away. She knew how to sustain a friendship. Now we just got back on the island and are ready to resume our friendships here and she is gone too soon. I will truly miss her. She was always such a gracious hostess in her lovely home and always up for any fun we might be able to conjure up. The four musketeers, Linda, Maureen, Sande and I had some happy, silly times together. We had many laughs and also many heart to heart conversations. She was loved and will be greatly missed.
So very sadden to hear the news of Sande’s passing. A grand lady with a heart of gold, quick wit and great style.
Gentle healing thoughts to her family.