John passed away suddenly and peacefully with his family at his side. He is survived by his wife of 38 years, Judy (Kappel), children Brent (Chloe), Hayley Warren (Todd), grandchildren Luna, Sasha, Emmett, Brooks, brother David (Brenda) and sister Debbie Wilder (Dan).

John lived in Oak Bay since he was 5 years old. He was passionate about his neighbourhood and community. He helped found Oak Bay Alumni and was the president for the first 15 years. John helped the alumni fundraise for scholarships, a grand piano and was currently helping to acquire a new Track and Field facility.

John had been retired for 5 years and enjoyed each day. He loved gardening, pickleball, committees, traveling (bicycle tours), and most of all, playing with his young grandchildren.

John will be remembered for his smile, dry humour, eclectic music choices, parking rules, his lawn, and above all, his crazy love for his wife and family.

A Celebration of John’s Life will occur in July.

Condolences may be offered to the family below.

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  • Joe Reid

    My deepest condolences to the family. I am saddened to hear of John’s passing. I worked with John at Xerox in the 90’s. John was a kind and caring person who was always was willing to help anyone. Godspeed my friend.

  • Wes Meiklejohn

    Judy and family… Sincere condolences on John’s passing. I had the great pleasure of getting to know John; we engaged in many wonderful conversations and shared our aspirations and struggles. John imparted beautiful knowledge and wisdom, and I miss him greatly. Take care.

  • Brandi

    Dear Judy and family,
    So sad to hear this news. I have fun memories of John from when we were kids and am glad we got to connect again as grownups, sharing good company and laughs. I’ll miss him. Love to you all.

  • Don Ramsdale

    Judy ,I was very sorry to hear of Johns passing. I am hoping you and the family are able to support each other through these difficult and unexpected times. I know from having been through such a loss that there are no words that can be said to console or make it any easier. I send you and your family all the love, positive energy and thoughts I can muster. Take great care of yourself.

  • Andrea Hofmeyr

    Dear Judy & family, we were so very sorry to hear about John’s passing. You are in our thoughts & prayers at this difficult time. Sending much love & hugs, Andrea & Hally

  • Rob and Brenda Taggart

    Dear Judy and family,
    We have just learned of the very sad news of John’s sudden passing over a month ago. John was such a friendly, smiley man to know. Rob really enjoyed working with John when he was at Compugen and appreciated his support at the Community Living Victoria concerts over the years. We know you will miss him so much as a husband, father and grandfather. There will be many beautiful memories for you to share.
    Rob and Brenda Taggart

  • Shannon Drew

    Judy,I am so deeply sorry for your loss. It has been a long time since we have connected with all the lovely ladies of our book club, but I so fondly remember those days and how often you spoke about John and the fun you had together. Please know that I am thinking about you, Brent and Hayley. Sending you peace and love. xo

  • Margaret Goodwin

    Dear Debbie & Family;

    I am saddened to hear of John’s passing at such a young age. I remember John serving up food with your Mum at the 910 Government Food Court when we worked together at Falkins McIntosh.

    I hope in time you can remember all the good times you had with your brother; it can be difficult at first, but gets a little easier as years go by.

    Margaret Goodwin

  • Wade Danis

    Dear Judy & family,
    Ildikó and I are so sorry to hear of John’s passing – our heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family. Wishing you and your family peace, comfort, and many cherished memories.

    Wade and Ildikó

  • Marilyn Erickson

    Bevin and I are still in shock and sorrow. As work colleagues with Judy, I first met John through his time with Xerox where he was instrumental in improving every copy room in the District with the sale of the first digital photocopiers. His kindness, humour and patience throughout our negotiations was always his biggest asset. His dedication to Oak Bay High staff and students extended into his creation of the Alumni group, which he selflessly led for so many years, fundraising and organizing events until his sudden passing. John was a wonderful and supportive friend to many and our BBQ’s and weekend visits will be so missed. Judy, you are in our hearts. Call when you need anything please.

  • Jennifer Monahan (Barrett)

    I am so sorry to hear this. I remember babysitting for Brent and Hayley when I was a student at Oak Bay High in the early 90s. John was a kind and devoted family man. Deep condolences to Mrs. Falkins and the rest of the family

  • Jonathan & Erin Roberts

    Judy, Kids, Dave, Debbie, …What can I say? It was so good to touch base with John & Judy after so many years. John looked so fit, after his brief spell of impersonating Mike, but I won’t go into that. Our paths go back a long, long time, but have never been a galaxy far, far away. He was so very proud of his family. I have been a fan of his neighborliness, his gardening, and his community involvement. All we can say is “F***!” We are still in shock and we miss him dearly. We will try to join you in July.

  • Russ. and Chriss. Ball

    We were very saddened to read of John’s passing. John was a very warm, caring and engaging individual. His love for Judy and his Family was fundamental to who he was. He will be greatly missed by everyone who had the privilege to meet him. Our thoughts are with all of you at this difficult time.

  • Kathy Planiden

    Dear Judy, David and Deb, I remember John from our childhood summers on Tie lake. Our July birthdays were sometimes celebrated in one party. Our families had wonderful memories of our summers at the lake. I remember Mike and Alice well and see Mike’s smile in John’s smile. Our condolences. Kathy (Cook) &Al Planiden and Don Cook

  • Keith & Doreen Newell

    Our condolences to you and your family. John will be missed.
    Doreen is an Oak Bay alumnus and through her I learned that John was organizing fundraising for the repair of the Oak Bay Track. A huge task and I hope John’s work will be carried on.

  • Bill Smith

    Our deepest condolences to Judy and family hearing this shocking news. John and Judy were very close friends and we were fortunate to have numerous social events with them while Judy and I were teaching at Lambrick. Our thoughts are with you Judy!!

  • Lauren Charlton

    Dear Judy,
    I am deeply saddened to learn of your husband John’s sudden passing. He was far too young. I send my deepest condolences to you and your family.
    Lauren Charlton

  • Teri (Paone) & Rhys Wickes

    Our sincere condolences at the passing of your husband Judy. We hope that you are surrounded by your closest family and friends to help you and your children through such a tragic time.

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