Sande, partner to Bob for 56 years, mother to Greer, mother in-law to Brian Pasquill, and grandmother to Aedan & Zachary left this world with her family at her side the afternoon of December 26th, 2022.
A very serious and largely untreatable cancer of the gall bladder had spread to her liver and lymph nodes, only having received confirmation of the diagnosis a couple of weeks prior to her passing. Sadly, the pain and complication of the condition overcame her very rapidly, a terrible shock to family, friends and caregivers. Sande had been transferred from home to a hospice bed at Ayre Manor in Sooke the afternoon of December 24th with the support and guidance of her physician Dr. Tomas Vally and Sooke Hospice – the family is enormously grateful to Dr. Vally, Sooke Hospice, and the staff of Ayre Manor for their compassionate care and support during a most challenging time.
Sande was a beautiful soul, born in Montreal, and having grown up in the Eastern Townships of Quebec with her mother, Lilah M. Fruiler (father, Louis Douglas Fruitier, died circa 1947), cousins, and a treasured group of friends; this is also where she met her love, Bob, whom she married in Montreal November 12, 1966. Sande’s expression of her beautiful nature was expressed perfectly in her appreciation of art of all kinds, as well as the maintenance of a very special aesthetic in her home and tastes. She was a most amazing and lovely friend to many, always giving beyond 100% to help those she cared for. A live wire, always au courant with local and global affairs and politics, she was an avid reader and a social media savante.
Sande gave very generously of her time and attention to local arts organizations (Sooke Fine Arts, Greater Victoria Art Gallery, Victoria Horticultural Society) – her contributions are gratefully acknowledged, and her presence will be sadly missed by her family and friends.
The family graciously requests donations to Ayre Manor (Sooke Elderly Citizen’s Housing Society) or Sooke Hospice in lieu of flowers.
A Celebration of Life will be held for Sande in the Sequoia Centre, at McCall Gardens, 4665 Falaise Drive, on Friday, May 26, 2023, at 2:00 pm.
Condolences may be offered to the family below.
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Frank Pasquill And Myra Evans,
Cher Bob, Greer, Brian, Aedan et Zachery ;
Citation Kahlil Gilbran, Sande pourrait vous dire aujourd’hui :
“Quand vous êtes triste, regardez de nouveau dans votre cœur, et vous verrez qu’en vérité vous pleurez ce qui a été votre délice.”
Though we knew Sande had not been too well as of late we didn’t know what to think with your home looking unusually quiet as of late. We only learned of Samde’s passing on reading the Sooke News Mirror. We offer you, Bob and all your family our heartfelt sympathies. What little we knew of Sande she was a warm, kind and loving person and very dedicated to doing good in her community.
So very sadden to hear the news of Sande’s passing. A grand lady with a heart of gold, quick wit and great style.
Gentle healing thoughts to her family.
To Bob, Greer and family,
Our heartfelt sympathy at the loss of Sande.
A lovely lady with a contagious smile.
You will have wonderful memories to share with the grandchildren.
Marnee and Graeme Lee
After all the condolences and offers of a meal, when my wife died in September, Sandie and Bob where the only ones who followed thru and we had a delicious dinner together. That is the measure of Sandie and Bob, always caring. She’s dancing beyond the stars, a million miles passed the moon. It’s a hard hit, but I know you can make it through Bob.
Stan
So very sorry to read of Sande’s passing.
She was always generous and friendly to all.
Sincere condolences to Bob and Greer
Our heartfelt condolences go out to you Bob. Although we haven’t seen each other for a couple of years, when we moved to Sooke and joined the Sooke Fine Arts Society, you and Sande greeted us with open arms. Your friendship and hospitality will be cherished forever.
The best sister in law I could have ever had. I will miss our conversations and laughs. Bob, Greer, Brian, Zach, Aedan words can’t express how sorry I am that Sande was taken so quickly from us but she watches over us still keeping us in line. RIP Sande, until we meet again ❤️❤️
Sending deepest sympathy to you, Bob, and to your family for your sad loss of Sande. She was
a strong person who was also a very kind lady, and I remember her with respect and affection.
Our deepest Condolences to Bob, Greer, and Family from all her Ruiter Cousins and offspring!
Sande will be fondly remembered by all us, now spread out over Canada from Nova Scotia to Alberta !
She was a huge part of the glue, that kept us in touch with each other in the Family !
Sande will be sadly missed !
RIP